Introducing the marvelous miraculous Marci Warhaft (@marciwarhaft).
It’s time to unpack another quote from one of our mentors in the book Get Up. Oooh – this is a goodie!
Marci and I have known each other since we were 13 years old. Wait until you read what we thought of each other!
Adores Mangoes, squash, and can’t get through a day without chocolate – especially milk chocolate.
Favourite thing to do? Grab her music and earphones and dance down the street for hours. The combination of music, movement, and fresh air is her greatest mood lifter.
Marci is a proud mom of two sons who are in their twenties. They are fantastic young men who are creating their own paths. They make her proud every day.
There is so much behind the wise words that she shared in Get Up. After you read this interview, you will know why I named this blog the marvelous miraculous Marci.
Ok – let’s get to it! Who is Marci?
“I used to wonder that myself. The truth is, I keep evolving, growing, and becoming different versions of myself, which has been really exciting! My mom used to say, ‘People don’t change, they modify.’ She meant that life can throw us challenges and put us through experiences that alter us, but who we are at our core will always remain. I absolutely agree with her because while I continue to change, I have always been and will always be a woman who isn’t afraid to stand up for herself and others. I live my life with truth and authenticity that often surprises people. I have found comfort in doing things my own way and know that my journey doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s or be what’s traditionally expected to be valid.”
How do you spend your days?
“I am a body image advocate and coach. I’m a writer, public speaker, and published author. I am a mother and a rebel.
A few years ago, I released ‘The Body Image Survival Guide for Parents: Helping Toddlers, Tweens and Teens Thrive’.
I wrote the book I wish my own mother could have read when I was battling my eating disorder and she felt so powerless. There’s nothing worse than seeing your child in pain and not being able to help. My book is full of tips, tools, games, and activities to help parents empower their kids with the confidence they need to thrive in our image-obsessed society.
Recently, I published ‘The Good Stripper: A Soccer Mom’s Memoir of Lies, Loss and Lap Dances’.
In this book, I share in honest and intimate detail the punishing circumstances and self-destructive behaviours that shaped my early adulthood. I discuss how experiencing a multitude of traumas led me into a double, secret life that nearly destroyed me until I discovered the strength to reclaim my life and happiness.”
We’ve known each other since our early teens! What did you think of me?
“Sharon, You were kindness personified. I can honestly say that I never heard you utter a single negative or critical comment about anybody, nor did I hear anything negative said about you. You have a natural warmth that lets people know you were a safe person to be friends with. I also remember you being a good student who worked hard for good grades.”
“Marci, you were fun to be with and were up to do anything. You stood up for what you believed in and were not afraid to challenge the teacher or the other students. A great listener, too. We had some great talks and I felt that you really “got me.” A fantastic dancer and everyone, including me, really enjoyed watching you dance on stage. Especially during those fashion shows.”
Time to dissect the quote:
“Do not adjust yourself to fit into society; be yourself and let society adjust.”
“Despite all of the ‘Be yourself!’ quotes we see posted all over social media, there is still SO MUCH fear around being judged by other people if we do. Too many people are afraid to live their lives in a way that others won’t accept, respect, or understand. I used to be one of those people, but not anymore.
The greatest gift you can give yourself is the freedom to be authentic. Follow YOUR joy, YOUR dreams, and YOUR goals even if they look different than what people expect. The really amazing thing is that by being honest with yourself and other people, you are actually creating a safe space for them to live honestly as well. I always say that if my life choices make you uncomfortable, it’s much better than YOU’RE uncomfortable with my life than I am.”
One last thing
“I will always be grateful for the book, ‘When Bad Things Happen to Good People‘ by Harold S. Kushner. I carried that book around with me for a year after my brother, Billy died. It was the only thing that gave me a little bit of comfort.”
Ok, one more last thing…
There is a reason why I named this blog the marvelous miraculous Marci, and I think you can see why. The life that Marci has lived so far has been an incredibly challenging journey and she has the scars and a bucket full of wisdom to prove it. I am so honoured that she shared her words of wisdom in Get Up. Her quote as well as her personal story will resonate and help so many.