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Last week, it was time for the great surrender.
This idea to surrender didn’t come to me so quickly. I always knew about the act of surrendering, but it didn’t come into my subconscious until Judy Librach (@judyellebliss) from Finding Your Bliss (@theblissminute) posted about the idea of letting go of what we can’t control.
“Just yield to it. Let go of trying to control it or fix it because it will just create more anxiety and tension. Letting go and letting be. There will be more sunshine and blue skies soon.”
I don’t think Judy realized how much those wise words impacted me.
After a few days of things not going my way. Call it Mercury Retrograde, or blame it on COVID. It just wasn’t my day, my week, or my month. And I was sad, angry, and frustrated.
Judy’s Instagram post kept coming up in my mind, which lead me to decide that it was time for the great surrender.
I didn’t surrender so quickly. It took a “match” to light the fire, and this was it.
This was the question that did it. There I was, in my kitchen with my husband. Shmoozing about our day. My face fell. He noticed. Asked me the question of the title of this paragraph. I shook my head and then a flood of emotions forced its way out of my mouth like a tsunami and he listened.
I vented.
He listened.
And vented some more.
He listened some more.
My eldest son was there, too. He offered me a cookie. I took it.
There is a silver lining to this surrendering moment. To teach my loved ones (and all of you) that I’m not a robot. I’m human, that feels all the ups and downs that life has to offer. An obvious fact, but sometimes a difficult one to admit to.
Why?
We want to be as optimistic as possible, especially during these times. To set goals, reach them, and say heck yes – COVID isn’t stopping me.
But setbacks are normal. Nothing is linear. And the best lessons are our failures, or, as I describe in My Epic F.A.I.L
After I let it all out. And yes, it took a while. And afterward, my problems didn’t go away, but I felt like an elephant left my shoulders. It was a huge relief.
The best part was that I demonstrated to my son and my husband that it’s OK to be sad, disappointed, and angry. And when this happens, I recommend a few things:
Choose the right people to vent to. Not all of your friends are good listeners, and that’s OK. You know who will completely have your attention and give you the space to share every last word that’s on your mind. In addition, they will not be so quick to judge or offer solutions because that’s not what you are looking for.
Gear up for some self-care. Go for a walk. Watch or listen to something funny. Take a bubble bath. Log on to one of these online workshops from @theakiraconcept. A favourite of mine is Unmeditation.
And finally, to realize that this too, shall pass.